If you are getting older and beginning to see everyone around you couple up for the long term, you may be considering whether it is time for you to settle down. If you have a friends with benefits relationship that is going along fantastically, you may be wondering if it may be a good thing to take it to the next level. Before you make that serious of a decision, it is best to weigh all the options, and the pros and cons of putting a kibosh to your current love situation. There are many advantages to the friends with benefits relationship that will get stomped on if you decide to take it to a more serious level.


 

The pros and cons of getting married versus a friends with benefits relationship…

Pro
When you get married you are in a stable relationship. There is something very secure feeling about knowing that there is one person in your life that you can depend on. When you get married you know that there will be someone at your side to listen, to help you, and best of all, to do your laundry. We weren’t meant to be alone in life, and having someone by your side can be a very reassuring feeling.

Con
When you have a friends with benefits relationship you are able to have the security of having them around when you want them, but not having to deal with them when you don’t. Not only are they great for sex, but you are also friends. They will care about you, but not demand so much of your time. When you need them you can call, but they won’t smother you by being there all day, every day. In a nutshell a friend with benefits will go home.

Pro
When you get married you can have sex anytime you want. Unlike having to find a person in a bar you don’t have to worry about the next time you can have sex. You sleep with someone every night and there is the potential to have sex whenever you want it. When you are married you never have to worry who you are going to sleep with, your wife is there when you want sex.

Con
A wife isn’t always going to want to have sex when you do. Don’t assume that your wife is going to be into you all the time. As time goes on, she is probably going to be less into you. That means that although she is there, there is no guarantee that you are going to get laid. It can actually work against you. If she isn’t in the mood, you can’t go out and find someone else. When you have a friends with benefits relationship if your friend isn’t in the mood you can find someone who is. You aren’t beholden to just one woman. You can call her when you want to have sex and if she isn’t into it you have no obligation to wait until she is, you can just find someone else.

Pro
Sex can get better over time as you get comfortable with each other and are able communicate with one another. Many couples report that sex in a relationship continues to get better with age.
 

 
Con
You can become worn out and tired with each other when you get married. Being with the same woman for the rest of your life can sound really unexciting with reason. There is no greater thrill than being with someone new for the first time. When you get married that part of sex will never be there again. If you stick with a friends with benefits arrangement you are still able to have sex with new people whenever you want. That means you get the best of sex with your friend, and you can have sex with new people. If one of the advantages to a wife is that sex gets better as you age, sex with your friends with benefits will get better as you get comfortable, so that wipes out all the benefit to getting married.

Although there is stability and comfort in getting married, it just doesn’t make sense if you have a friends with benefits situation. Not only will getting married change the dynamics, it will ensure that you never have sex with anyone but the same girl for the rest of your life, is that really what you want?